I always get asked for tips on how I seem to juggle everything. Operative word: seem. I don’t really get everything done. My biggest frustration is wanting to get everything done on my to do list as soon as possible. But as I tread the tricky slope of homemaking, motherhood, and blogging, I’ve learned over time that managing things means juggling different roles while celebrating small daily successes.
But how does one celebrate small wins everyday? Sharing with you all how I do it.
THE STRUGGLE IS REAL
Other days I excel at being a homemaker. It’s usually Mondays when I feel I’ve done a great job managing our home because I like to start the week doing the laundry, cleaning the house and cooking meals for my family. Other days I’m on a roll as a blogger. Randomly jotting down ideas on what to share, shooting images for content and attending press events and meeting up with people I’ve become friends with. But why is it that there are more days when I feel defeated as a mom? I worry about how I’m doing taking care of my kids. I guess it’s simply because being a mom is extra challenging than being a homemaker, a wife, or a blogger for it involves taking care of other human beings.
The thing is I never really compare myself to other moms because I know each of us has gone through the struggles of raising our kids but what gets me is the pressure I put towards myself. Am I doing all that I can in my power and ability to raise my kids the best way possible? Am I trying hard? Am I good enough? Thoughts like these often times lead me to doubt myself.
There are days when I just couldn’t keep up with the things I need to do and the schedule I have to follow that I end up stressed. You know how you’re doing something while thinking about a million other things–grocery list, errands, fixing schedules, meal planning, and so much more–and then you want to do another thing right away even if you’re not yet done with the thing you’re currently working on. In between these chaos in your head, you end up forgetting what you’re supposed to do or say. This is basically what mom brain is.
NUMBER 1 MOM IN THE WORLD
But the thing is no matter what we do or don’t do, we’ll always be the best mom in the world for our kids. And sometimes it’s not even about the things we give them nor the sacrifices we make for them. It could be as simple as a kiss, a comforting hug or time spent being with them that gets us that Best Mom In The World award.
MAKE PEACE WITH YOURSELF
I hate feeling defeated. I mean who doesn’t? I hate not accomplishing a lot of things especially things on my to-do list. I am bothered by interrupted schedules, unfollowed timeline, and sometimes long breaks that could’ve been short ones. Then again these things happen and sometimes we just have to let go and adapt to these changes. I’ve learned to make peace with myself knowing I can only do so much in a day. So I take it day by day and even though I’m used to planing and following schedules, I make room for abrupt changes motherhood brings.
Moms can be sungit (harsh, irritable) at times simply because we don’t like a messy home. We feel that sometimes kids intentionally do things to make us feel this way but the fact is they don’t. My kids in particular get excited to color, doodle & play that oftentimes it gets messy. Colors & papers all over the place, blocks and Legos are on the floor, even meal time gets messy. I’ve learned to let go of my frustration towards the mess they make and just let them enjoy as long as they pick up after. This definitely is filed under small battle (against myself) big win in my book.
CELEBRATE SMALL WINS
My kids are extra clingy during summer because our helper goes on a vacation. This means double the work for me which oftentimes make me twice as stressed. Thankfully I’ve managed to take it easy on myself and on the things I need to do by celebrating the small wins. It starts by accepting that each day is different and changes can occur then I focus on the things I need to do while prioritizing the wellness of my kids. I let go of my frustration to keep the house clean at all times, laundry done & folded, and trying to finishing all nagging task. I make peace with myself & remind myself that for my kids I am the number 1 mom in the world.
GO FOR ABSOLUTE LOVE
There are many definitions of love but a mother’s love will always include wanting what’s best for her children. As a mom wanting what’s best for my kids is second nature, call it motherly instinct or just mother’s love. Which is why I make sure I provide them with only the best. When it comes to food I make sure they get the nutrients they need, I supplement with vitamins too. And when it comes to hydrating thank goodness they prefer water more than juices.
Thankful for Absolute for being my partner in making sure my kids get enough water especially this summer. It’s the #1 Distilled Drinking Water and is a brand in the Philippines that is certified by the National Sanitation Foundation International–read more about distillation process HERE. I’m really glad I partnered with Absolute Distilled Drinking Water the #1 brand for my #1 priority, my children.
As I told you before, my daughter Gabbie isn’t a fan of drinking a lot of water. But since she sees his brother hydrate well, she picked up the habit as well. One of the many small wins I celebrate –to see my kids influence each other in a good way.
At the end of the day I look at my kids happy, well-fed and well-hydrated, suddenly I feel like I’ve done a good job. From focusing on my shortcomings to celebrating the everyday wins which are usually the small, trivial things in life. To all the moms who feel the same as I do relax momma, you are doing a good job. Go ahead and celebrate the small wins in your life today! Trust that Absolute Distilled Drinking Water is one with us when it comes to providing only the best for our family.