Based from my comment on the post inadvertentlydomesticated.com » Sunday Morning of all the things I have ever imagined happening to me & my life, being blissfully domesticated at the age of 23 was never one of them.
Although I have experienced some of the “physical” attributes of domestication one thing is for sure, that I wasn’t prepared for the emotional side of it.
I’ve learned to take care of a baby when I was 18. I’ve taken care of my sister’s daughter from the moment she came home from the hospital up until before she turned a year old, it was because my brother-in-law was working away & my sister needed help. Since I am fond of babies I gave it a try & actually liked it. It was our mom who taught me how to feed, change nappy, burp, and bathe a baby. I was in charge of the night shift, since I am a night person everything was easy peasy.
When it comes to home making I think I am also pretty good at it. Mom really loves fixing the house & I together with my other sister are her assistants when it comes to it. She taught us well when it comes to proper decoration, assortment,organizing & storage of things.
Cooking on the other hand needed no forced lesson from my mom. We love eating & cooking is one of my mom’s specialty. She’s a kapampangan & it is proven that Pampangeneos are excellent cooks! It’s second nature for her to cook & for her it’s not a task at all. I remember my sisters & I would watch our mom cook & would let us assist her & actually earn from it during summer. With that I’ve learned to marinate & cook steak at the age of 13 and bake at the aged 10.
So if you ask me, what’s left to be accomplished? I say the emotional side of being domesticated was something I wasn’t prepared for. Sure all these “chores” are easy to do once you’ve learned & mastered it but nobody can teach you how to feel & react to things & issues that comes with being domesticated. Of course advices & stories from parents, relatives & friends are helpful but at the end of the day it’s between you, your husband, & children but most especially, it’s the emotional battle within yourself that you have to face & figure out.
I’ve always included in my prayers that if there’s something I need strength for it’s not to endure the physical pain but the emotional struggle that I might have to face.
Yes, everything seemed natural for me & being “accidentally domesticated” at a young age by my sisters & mother really helped me to become a mature person. It’s the emotional naturalization that I needed to learn for myself, and it began when Mr. Go proposed to me 2 years ago, now that’s blissful domestication. 🙂
Ms C says
i agree. sometimes, you wish there were a textbook on how to act and react on domestic issues so you can prep your emotions and not be caught off guard.
exactly. emotions can do a lot of things especially to a wife, mother, sister & daughter like us!
i could so relate to this post!!!
my mother was super (overly) strict, that she wanted me to know how to “properly” do everthing. from how to properly shampoo your hair & how to properly put on lotion to your skin, to how to properly fold clothes, fix the bed sheets & clean/decorate the house.
cooking and baking has been my interest ever since though, that it has been my weekend routine since grade school to watch a morning cooking show and copy any dish that i could.
i had a baby brother (remember regie?) and i was a 2nd yaya to him (he has a 1st yaya), since my mother can’t be too tired due to heart disease (& yes she is just lazy too.LOL) that i knew how to change nappies, etc.
so it’s the emotional struggle i am mostly concerned about too.
teka, tama bang mag-kwento din ako sa comment? sorry! haha.
lucky us for being blissfully domesticated, and god bless us for the struggles we have to face.
btw, i like your writer-y posts! lovet! hihi!
Oh i remember your brother! How is he by the way? uy, blog din your stories you wanna share 🙂 Thanks! 🙂
how we wish there is a manual to everything–especially in managing emotions. but like i said to all my girlfriends, we are not robots, we are humans–to feel is natural. skills can be learned, to manage emotions–it really depends on each individual.
in marriage and parenting, we can be ready at a certain extent but no one can ever be ready for what everyday can bring us. i guess that’s makes life exciting and every milestone bliss.
very well said! that’s why we love hearing stories from other people, it may not do much but it helps us know that if others can do it, so can we. 🙂
…true that. =)